We often know we need to Speak the Truth, but we rarely do. Why? We fear hurting another, not being liked, being seen to be bitchy or bossy, or cruel..we don’t want to be misunderstood, we don’t want to get emotional, or deal with emotions...so we don’t speak.
And the cost of not speaking...personally...look at all the times you have had to dig yourself out of an emotional, physical or spiritual hole because of not speaking...look at the breakdowns at work, the effort required to clean up from NOT speaking the truth. Big chunks of our life goes down the drain in heartache, suffering, anxiety, disappointment...even loss of relationships, work, health...life...because we did not speak the truth.
And the cost to business...lets say about 30-40% loss of time, energy, focus...at least this...to the hundreds of times a day people did not speak the truth. Collusion, fear of being hauled over the coals, or fired...disasters happen because people don’t know how to speak the truth.
Please enjoy this FREE ebook, Speak the Truth. Speak the Truth, 7 Steps to Radical Truth with Compassion, is the culmination of the last 25 years of my life learning to have the most important, the most difficult, the most emotional conversations, and to do so with dignity and compassion for all.
Speaking the Truth to another person is fraught with danger. The possibility to upset, offend, increase the rift between, be mis-understood, bring your own upset, anger, blame...into the conversation, is very real.
The 7 step process to Speaking the Truth was designed specifically to avoid these and other common pitfalls. And yet it takes courage. And skill...to get a conversation right when the stakes are high.
This FREE ebook, Speak the Truth, is a gift to you. Gifts, by their nature, are meant to be shared. What is given away feeds again and again, while what is kept feeds only once and leaves us hungry. So please share far and wide. Mention this on your blog, in your newsletter, to your friends on facebook, google+ and via twitter.
Leave comments (via the box on the lower right), especially the stories of how you have applied the Speak the Truth process to your own life and relationships. The gift of sharing will feed others.
Speak the Truth ebook is only a little book, 23 pages. It will take no more than 30 minutes to read...less if you are a fast reader. But to apply it and practice it will take you much longer...so this ebook is a reference book, the kind you can pull out again and again and again.
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A few things you will learn from Speak the Truth
- how to get out of your own way when you have an important thing to say
- how to speak with heart and head, not just head.
- what are the stakes for you of Speaking the Truth
- what are the costs of not doing this?
Mostly I want you to practice these steps. They take a while to learn, but with practice, they become so familiar to you, and of great worth. Relationships have been transformed through the application of this process. The value of that is immeasurable. I would LOVE to hear from you about your experience.
If you are interested in attending a Free live teleseminar on Speak the Truth on Wednesday March 21st, 2012 at 7 pm EST USA time, which is Thursday March 22nd 2012 at 10 am Queensland Australia time register in the box on the upper right of this page. During this teleseminar, you will get the opportunity to have questions answered and possibly (depending on how many people we get on the call) experience 1-1 coaching around some of your difficulties in Speaking the Truth. There will be zero marketing on this call for other programs. If you cannot attend the teleseminar live, you will need to register your details to be able to access the recording after the call has occurred. This teleseminar is also a gift....so please help me spread the word.
Once you have registered for the class you will receive an email with call in details. If you don't receive this email please check your spam box.
As a BONUS, when you sign up, you can also download the 3 x 50 minute audio recorded on December 8th 2011, January 10th and February 14th 2012, where we walk through the 7 steps with participants.
What’s in it for me? This ebook has been sitting on my computer for about 3 years. I would much rather get it out into the world to do what it is supposed to do, which is to support people to speak their truth. If you love this, and you love my work, which is about integrity, then I would love you to spread the word. I write a blog, here. Join me. I am building a tribe. Or sign up for my newsletter here. And I offer one on one and group sessions that are built on a platform of rigorous integrity. You and your company may like to step out of murky waters, into a clean clear space? If so, drop me a note.
I participated in one of Christine Mc Dougall's on line Speak the Truth teleclasses. It was really impressive. What she advised was really amazing. Simply amazing. I haven't been able to put it out of my mind and it remains inspirational. Here is a guy, a really good man and he is fighting for money to build a community school to improve all number if things in the future. (The January 2012 recording, available for free download) Obviously he wants to create friendships between children which will take them into a wonderful world of lessened racial tension, lessened narrow views born of ignorance. Yet, he tells Christine that the minute he begins to put his case for funding to this white dominated committee , he can almost see their eyes rolling back in their heads, and feel their minds closing. Christine's answer to this is simply profound.
Until he asks himself the first question of the 7 step process: What do I want FOR them? This is a lesson for everyone in sales. This is a lesson for everyone dealing in relationship problems. This is a very special question. It is all about inter-connectivity. It's not about US and THEM. Whilst it's us and them-it will not work. It's the super glue in the equation.
I cannot stop thinking about this. It matters not who is right and who is wrong. It's the ability to relate with compassion. How we cannot hear somebody when they are coming from anger because we react to this. Or they cannot hear us when we come from anger. Or when truth is uttered-and a REALISATION felt, there IS a silence. This is REAL communication. Eyes don't roll when these thing happens. This is not easy work-it's something you have to dig deep into a realisation that we are all connected and hunger for that connection. Making that your main game and everything falls effortlessly into place.
Thank you Christine.
- Julie Rouse, Brisbane, Australia
I signed up for the Speak the Truth teleclass because I really want to improve my communication skills especially when in conflict.
By doing the process I came to a very clear understanding (not in my head but in my heart) of where my responsibility lay in the situation and how my assumptions were just that. I saw how in truth I had no idea of what was truly going on and that there were many possibilities other than the ones I had created.
As such the process took me very quickly to a place of true compassion for the person I was feeling in conflict with and a "looking forward" to connecting with him instead of fear and dread.
The biggest single learning I had was to be very careful not to create stories around what I think or believe to be so about another person or their position but rather do the deep work of this process and then reach out and connect (with the Truth).
I am going to use the Speak the Truth material to connect to my heart, see where I may not be taking responsibility or making assumptions, move from a place of judgment and fear to one of greater understanding and compassion and finally to take the necessary action to communicate and connect in a deeper and more meaningful way.
Its obvious this material is ingrained in Christine and she walks her talk. She explains the material very well, she is kind yet strong, very intuitive and insightful. In a word masterful!
Speak the Truth is timely, imperative and brilliant.
- Gail Moore
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